2 Sex Mistakes Men Make All the Time (Are You Mr Speed Or One-Pump-Johnny?)

Over 88% of men admit that they want more sex with their wives. And the other 12% are either too stressed out, simply don’t care or are gay. If you have “settled” for an average sex life or are frustrated to the point of having an affair or hiring an escort, don’t despair. This is a lot cheaper and you’ll avoid having to explain how you picked up the HPV virus from the steam room at the gym. Follow these 3 strategies and she will be begging for you sexually every day.

1.      Know Who You Are. There are different personalities and characteristics in men. Some of the emasculation of men in Western society has really screwed us up! Being in touch with our ‘feelings’ and showing our sensitive side was supposed to help matters-right?

Wrong. Stop watching Oprah, for starters. It doesn’t really help you get more sex. While it is important to not be so dominant that you are cocky, it is important to retain, build and nurture your confidence and stature. It’s been said that the “bad boys” get all the chicks. Not necessarily. According to ScienceDaily, women prefer mates who are recognized by their peers for their skills, abilities, and achievements, while not preferring men who use coercive tactics to subordinate their rivals. Indeed, women found dominance strategies of the latter type to be attractive primarily when men used them in the context of male-male athletic competitions.

Women are sensitive to men who display domineering behaviors. For example, the traits and behaviors that women found attractive in athletic competitions were unattractive to women when men displayed the same traits and behaviors in interpersonal contexts. Notably, when considering prospective partners for long-term relationships, women’s preferences for dominance decrease, and their preferences for prestige increase.

Tip: Be strong, confident and charming, but leave the “I don’t care” attitude on the playing field. Women love confidence and strength, but they don’t really want to be treated poorly. It’s just that most men can’t balance the two and women are seduced by those charismatic bad boys.

2.      Date Her Forever. Of all the mistakes married guys make, this one is the easiest to fall into and the easiest to correct. As hunters, we stalk our prey and relish in the hunt. Our rewards during those Neanderthal days were a great feast and permission to make more people. Nowadays, our conquests consist of getting the newest PDA or earning a raise. We make up for the lack of hunting with sports and other trivial pursuits. Once you have romanced your woman, proposed and wed, many men forget how much FUN it was to pursue her, knock her down and drag her back to the cave. In fact, the hunt is always more gratifying than the meal. It usually lasts longer and makes the victory that much more satisfying.

The same holds true for our relationships. After you’ve paid the mortgage, taken the kids to soccer and cut the lawn, why should you have to seduce your wife for sex! You’ve earned it! After all, there is food on the table and she gets her hair done twice a month. Put out, baby! Uhmm….How’s that working so far?

Both genders have DNA and instincts that have not evolved that much. We need the pursuit and a woman needs to be pursued. It makes her feel desired, sexy and fertile. It makes you feel strong, masculine and important.

Tip: Continue to date your wife. Girlfriends are sexy; most moms could use a makeover to become sexier and more alluring. It is up to the man to create the environment of seduction, sensuality and excitement. You are the leader, so lead.

3.      Give Her Variety. Nothing shows you care for your woman more than to continually surprise her. I don’t mean surprising her that you remembered to lower the toilet seat. That is probably asking too much. I am referring to the surprise card you gave her, the flowers you sent for no reason or the naughty text you sent out of the blue.

Women like surprises as a general rule and the more you appeal to her sense of wonder the more she will wonder what got into you! Boredom in marriages doesn’t usually hit you in an instant. Rather, it creeps up on couples over months or years. Complacency and settling for your circumstances become routine and many people just assume that that’s the way it is. Yuk.

Your sex life can be the catalyst for incredible love, friendship and stimulation. This isn’t going to happen by doing it twice a month in the missionary position. Get a few books on sex including some titles that would make most women blush. These are readily available online or in stores, but just be sure to not order “Barney Goes to the Circus” along with your copy of “The Low Down on Going Down.” If your kids open that box, you may have a few therapy sessions to pay for.

2 Sex Mistakes Men Make All the Time (Are You Mr Speed Or One-Pump-Johnny?)

Every man wants to have the ability to bring their woman to intense, earth shattering, multiple orgasms. Keeping your woman satisfied sexually is perhaps one of the most essential ingredients to a long and happy relationship. A satisfied woman has no need to feel bored or feel as if her and her partner are growing apart.

A man should be worried if he can’t bring his woman to orgasm. It could be an early indicator that the relationship is doomed. Good mutually satisfying sex can be the glue that holds a relationship together.

There are some relatively common errors that guys make in the bedroom. Here are a few of those:

– One Pump Johnny: Sexual stamina is incredibly important as women can take up to 17 minutes to climax. Obviously, if the male can’t go 17 minutes, there will be a problem. And many men do finish up entirely too quickly leaving their women feeling sexually frustrated and ultimately uninterested in sex.

Guys can benefit from exercises designed to increase stamina. Kegel exercises are perhaps the most popular. There are sexual herbs that can help men improve stamina and overall performance – it’s a matter of pacing the act and being in control.

– Mr. Speed: Unless you are with an escort and being charged by the hour, there is absolutely no need to rush an intimate encounter. Too many men feel the need to jump right into having sex when foreplay is so important to satisfying a woman. A woman’s body needs to be aroused properly before any penetration and too many guys forget this.

Women love to be seduced. They love to be touched all over and teased. And, most importantly, women love to receive oral sex prior to any penetration. It’s even better when the male enjoys it, takes his time, and doesn’t act as if a lick here and a lick there is all it takes.

Now a bonus tip that you will find useful if you want to make any woman orgasm fast.

Sex Tips – Knowledge is Sexual Power

The sex tips and advice in this article are aimed at men.

Did you know that many men are not enjoying the sort of sex life they are capable of achieving? This is because most men simply don’t consider the possibility that their sexual performance can be improved easily and that it’s actually very simple to learn and master a new sex technique.

I congratulate you for simply being here and reading this. You have now spent more time learning about sexual improvement than most other men ever do. Sexual mastery isn’t about taking a magic pill or enhancing the size of your penis with the latest miracle gadget.

Sexual mastery is simply about learning accurate information and then applying that knowledge successfully.

According to the Orgasmic Dysfunction Medline currently 33 to 50 per cent of all women experience female orgasms infrequently and are dissatisfied with how often they reach orgasm with their current partner. That’s up to 50 per cent of all women! And in my experience as a sex coach this statistic has proved to be true. Not just the g spot orgasm either but any type of female orgasm.

The reason we have so many unsatisfied women is because most people, men and women, simply don’t spend the time learning sexual skills, techniques and are generally atomically unaware.

People are ignorant of the possibilities of what can be achieved sexually. Plus the average man is quite poor at maintaining an erect penis and controlling his ejaculation compared to what he could achieve if he knew some simple techniques.

I now from personal experience as a sex coach that 99 per cent of guys can learn to really sexually satisfy women and perform brilliantly once they have learnt and applied the correct information. We’ve helped thousands of men on everything from anal sex advice to oral sex advice, from sexual confidence to controlling orgasms and seen huge improvement. All you need is an open mind to learn new ways to make your sex life more enjoyable and more fulfilling.

Just because you’re interested in learning more about mastering your sex life doesn’t necessarily imply that you’re not already a skilled lover.

As is true in most walks of life, the successful never stop learning and developing their skills. What it does say about you is that you’re open to learning new ideas about how to make your sex life more enjoyable and more fulfilling. You’re willing to see what new possibilities could be explored to improve on what already know.

Are you an average guy in bed?

The average guy has never read or learnt about sex techniques and positions. The average guy tends to have learnt about safer sex, STIs/STDs, pregnancy and so on. He’s also learnt about the functional aspects of love making but not the about the interesting parts on increasing the pleasure in sex and mastering performance. For instance, the average man performing oral sex will not have read an oral sex guide to help them master their oral sex technique. They just go with what they think may be good. Sometimes through experimentation the average guy can get good. But why not study and learn more about sex? Why stay in the dark? Knowledge gives you the power fully fulfill your partner in ways you may never have thought of.

Just think about all the men out there who spend countless hours and huge amounts of money learning to improve other areas of their life like hobbies, sports, business and so on. These same men then hesitate to learn and master one of the most fundamental skills – Sex.

This means the average man will know more about their favourite hobby than they do about pleasing their partner. They will have read more guides, tips and techniques about their hobby than learning about giving good oral sex, about sexual fetishes, love sex advice or whatever.

Why don’t men consider improving their sexual performance?

Maybe they don’t know where to look or how to practice. Maybe they have looked around and stumbled into all the inaccurate information out there. Or maybe they think their sexual skills and performance capabilities are something they are born with and can’t be improved. Well they are wrong! Dead wrong! New skills can be learnt and they can also be taught.

I improved my own sexual skills beyond what I thought was possible and learnt what works on all women. I became a male escort and then a sex coach.

Consider the possibility that sexual performance is something that can be easily improved and mastered. Consider also the possibility that there are real sex masters out there who can teach you to master your own sexual performance.

If, as a man, you’ve not been able to make every woman you’ve slept with have strong multiple orgasms consistently and with little effort then there are techniques out there you need to know.

I’ll re-emphasis that “with little effort”. It doesn’t require a lot of effort to give women multiple orgasms.

Becoming a “Sexpert” is not a magical or mystical process. It is something you can achieve. All you need is the right information, an open mind, a willingness to learn and the right motivation.

How to Get a Female Orgasm Through Tantric Sex

One of the best ways in which you can get a female orgasm is by using tantric sex techniques. Go through the tantric sex tips provided below:

o The foundation of this ancient art is to hold back as long as you can. Tantric sex works best when you can maintain a state of arousal for a longer period of time. You can practice strengthening your pubic muscles for this. This will stop you ejaculating too fast. You can even try to reach an orgasm at the same time as your partner. Kegel exercises work very well for this.

o When you are making love, make sure you thrust slowly. This will let you get aroused in a slow manner. When you feel yourself reaching a climax, relax consciously. Take a deep breath and tighten your pelvic muscles. Then, resume lovemaking again.

o Most women will need you to patiently touch and caress her labia and clitoris before she reaches orgasm. The labia are the outer ‘lips’ of the vagina. Encourage your partner to tell you which touch she is enjoying. You can use sexy sounds and words to let your partner know that you are aroused!

o The g spot is called the sacred spot in tantric sex. This erogenous zone may be found around 2 inches inside the vagina. When your partner is aroused, try slipping your finger up the front side of her vaginal wall. Gently stimulating this area will get her aroused. Just be careful that you don’t pressure it too hard or too early. She will welcome your touch there only when she is very aroused.

o The school of tantric sex believes that you can direct the flow of sexual energies through your energy centers by practicing these techniques.

Tantric sex techniques are geared to make female orgasms more intense and long lasting.

Pekkie Aon was a former socialite who used to coach female social escorts in Thailand. Now, she has turned the tables and is teaching men the secrets of female seduction. To date, she has more than 500 male clients in Thailand alone.

The Vicious Cycle of Adult ADD, Shame, and Sexual Compulsion

Brian is an investment banker in his early forties who, in graduate business school, first began to visit prostitutes, spend money on phone sex, compulsively masturbate and, finally spend as much as 5-10 hours a day looking at internet porn. When sexually acting out, he would feel that someone had turned on his brain for the first time. On the net, he would suddenly feel alive. He had energy and felt the euphoria that sexual immersion seductively provides. His mind slowed down; he didn’t need to keep moving.

Since his teens, he had masturbated nearly every night before going to sleep and sometimes once or twice during the day as well. He was shy in school and dated infrequently, partly from his feelings of inadequacy from the persistent inability to concentrate, multiple failures, disapproval from parents, teachers and peers and the consequent demoralization that contributed to low self-esteem.

Undergraduate school had been difficult for him. Complex mathematical formulations from his economics courses were tape-recorded while he fantasized about looking under the girl’s shirt who sat next to him. He was chronically late at classes, his dorm was messy and his clothes were disheveled. He seemed to live in another world. Once on the job, he loved the thrill, excitement and risk of being a trader, but when he had to sit in boardrooms to listen to his bosses talk about strategy, his “eyes glazed over” with boredom and he entered into an “erotic haze”. He would fantasize about the escort he had been with the night before and anticipated getting home after a long day to get on the chat rooms and look at pornography on the internet.

His days were the usual business of forgetting assignments and people’s names, of losing things and being chastised by bosses, as he had been by parents, for not being able to sit still or follow directions. At home, he felt empty, depressed and lonely. He was unable to focus on a book or a movie. He often felt different than others. It was as though others were given a chip at birth that allowed them to remember simple things, to process information accurately, to complete tasks in an orderly fashion, to moderate their impulses and calm their bodies and mind when they wanted to. But Brian knew he was “different” from them. His girlfriend complained that he interrupted their conversations and that he always put his needs first from; He could never finish a task that wasn’t engrossing for him. He would lose his temper over trivial things and he didn’t know why. On the internet, however, looking at a montage of erotic images, he finally felt not scattered. Moreover, he felt soothed, whole and unafraid. Like a magic elixir, he would immediately feel “not different”. He felt alert, focused and alive. However, he soon found himself in job performance because of the long nights and weekends of compulsive sexing. He went to a 12-step “S” program and learned to stay away from compulsive sex. He married and got a promotion at work. Time passed as he worked his 12-step program and settled in to marriage. However, the impulse to call an escort or make an erotic phone call never went away.

One day, after two years of abstinence, he ran across an escort in a hotel who offered him her services and he could not think of a reason to refrain. Also, he had realized that his fantasies had taken on a distinct sadomasochist flavor and he had been curious about acting them out with this woman. He had been involved in a deal at work that went wrong and he felt “less than” and somewhat ashamed. Memories of shaming and humiliating remarks about his conduct and learning skills from teachers and parents came flooding back, precipitating his masochistic sexual fantasies. His sense of self was completely destabilized. So he did what had always worked for him when he felt psychologically fragmented: he went to an escort to shore up his fragile self esteem. Once again he would miraculously feel like he could live with himself. The non-stop put downs that had taken up permanent residence in his head were quieted, at least for a short period of time. Sex took the edge off like a few martinis do for an alcoholic.

The “quick fix” however, was followed by a crash which made him feel worse than he did before he went to the escort. Knowing he had once again lost control of himself, he would feel extremely remorseful and depressed. His feelings about himself bordered on self-loathing. After the crash, he no longer felt alert, focused, or euphoric. While Brian had been able to walk away from cocaine three years ago, the sex addiction had remained entrenched in his psyche: like an athlete’s foot of the mind — it called him — incessantly– an itch to be scratched but never soothed.

It was at this point that Brian decided that if he didn’t leave the house, he would not frequent escorts, and so he re-discovered the Internet. In no time at all, Vincent was spending untold minutes, hours, days totally absorbed in the internet, using chat rooms to set up erotic encounters, and exploring the fetishistic and S&M images and enticements of the cybersex world. Porn surfing became his medium of acting out because the images were flashy, intense, and risky and he could easily go to another web page when the novelty wore off and he would start to be bored.

What happened with Brian’s recovery? He seemed to have managed to avoid compulsive sex for a period of time and to make some positive changes in his life. But when faced with the opportunity, he was easily led to return to sex addiction.

In Brian’s case, he was not able to get a handle on his sex addiction because he had not been diagnosed and treated for Adult Attention Deficit Disorder. A particular constellation of imbalanced neurotransmitters were creating physical and emotional problems for him, including an inability to regulate attention, control impulses, sleeping, and mood and energy levels. His need to self-medicate his impulsivity, restlessness and mental hyperactivity gave way to using sexually compulsive behaviors to try to fix his brain chemistry. Poor impulse control combined with a drive for high-risk, intense, novel experiences contributed to Brian’s addiction to sex.

Many sexual compulsives with ADD have had experiences like Brian’s. They struggled in school because they got bored or had a hard time paying attention. Once bored, they would stare out the window, often caught up by sexual fantasies. As adults, relationships are difficult for them. Impulses carry them from project to project, relationship to relationship, job to job. Their minds come screeching to a halt as they try to remember a friend’s name or the location of the escort they visited last night. Most feel the self-loathing of people who are working under capacity, and experience the pain and grief of living a life of lost opportunities and diminished personal potential.

Deregulation and Deprivation

Deregulation and impulsiveness are the hallmarks of ADD, as well as the hallmark of sex addiction. Unable to set boundaries on their own behavior, ADDers feel an intense need to continue forever whether it is on a work project or an involvement in a sexual enactment. One definition of compulsion may very well be “a loss of control characterized by an intense desire to continue despite adverse consequences.”

A sense of deprivation then emerges when compulsive sexualizing does not provide the gratification and satisfaction that results from having the experience of natural pleasure as it relates to intimacy with another human being. Rather than sex being a way to bring two people closer, sexual enactments for the ADDer can stem from intra-psychic conflict, from a narcissistic need for validation not received in his child’s ADD world, and as a way to medicate the physiological symptoms of brain chemistry deregulation. The result is that sex takes up a disproportionately large place in his psychic equilibrium. His very sense of self depends on his sexuality.

Deprivation is not a feeling that is comfortable for the ADD/sex addict. He is a bottomless pit of needs, always looking ahead and never feeling satisfied. The simpler pleasures of life are too mild. Risky, novel, intense and mysterious experiences such as those provided by Internet porn match his voracious appetite. Sex with a spouse seems banal. Marriages are ruined. Unfortunately, trying to feed the monster of endless needs makes the need grow larger and more insistent so the ADD/sex addict sets a vicious cycle in motion. Despite endless hours looking at cybersex, no amount is ever enough. Sex addicts/cybersex addicts are rarely sated and live daily with a sense of unsatisfied longing.

Mood and Emotion

There are problems with mood and emotion regulation and stabilization in ADD and sex addicts. ADD/sex addicts often say they live on emotional roller coasters – the need for risk and intensity in life and in sexuality is ever-present. For the ADDer, feeling states fluctuate with extreme alterations in the highs and lows over hour or even minutes. Maintaining emotions on an even keel is an intricate process involving fine adjustments by different parts of the brain and nervous system. Since setbacks throw ADDers off balance easily, they may try to adjust their instability with a sex/internet binge to balance mood and brain chemistry. The release of endorphins and dopamine from sex temporarily settles the physical, emotional and biochemical roller-coaster that many ADDers experience on a daily basis.

Distractibility

The ADD mind drifts hither and yon. It daydreams, wanders and drifts among loosely and tenuously connected thoughts, often moving to sexual fantasies that quell its restless energy. This is the famous “distractibility” of ADD. An ADDer might engage in sexual fantasies when he should be working. The radio in the ADD brain seems to have a malfunctioning scan button that won’t let him switch channels efficiently. The sex addict’s solution is to stay tuned to one channel only and it is usually sexual fantasy to which the channel is set. Once he’s in his compulsive, rigid focus, it’s hard for him to turn off the scan button to redirect. Hence, distractibility is not the only problem; ADDers can also have problems with hyper focusing, or over focusing. Once the person’s attention is captured, he can stay engaged with what he’s doing almost endlessly. Some may not be able to pay attention; ADD sexual compulsives usually can’t stop paying attention. Hours and hours go by, chores don’t get done, children and spouse are neglected, books go unread, the glory of the sound of music is muted. This type of erotic hyper attention can also take its toll in exhaustion, fatigue, and sometimes failing health.

The over- persistence of the sexual compulsive can make switching gears out of the “erotic haze” very difficult. Although this type of self-absorption makes productive/creative work and interpersonal relationships impossible, refocusing is painful. Going from one task that involves excitement, risk, mystery, intensity, soothing and escape is excruciating when taking out the garbage or paying the bills is called for.

Another factor that contributes to sexual addiction for ADDers is that many people with ADD have defective sensory filters that make them experience the world as a barrage to the senses — noises, sights and smells rush in without barriers or protection. When you live with ADD, you may be constantly bombarded with input that others may not even notice. This assault on the senses often creates feelings of intense anxiety and irritation that can trigger sexual acting out. The comfort of the “erotic haze” on the internet or the soothing experience with an escort can ameliorate these incessant barrages of sensory stimuli to the ADD brain.

Impaired Social Skills

Some ADDers have experienced the negative impact of ADD on social adjustment. Many are shy and were not particularly popular in school, especially if learning disabilities have been in the picture. Social ostracizetion has been part of the childhood of many ADDers. As adults, many ADDers have to work very hard to interact effectively in social and work situations. The development of social skills is more an art than a science because we must learn to read the ever-changing reactions of others. If deficient selective attention interferes with paying attention to social cues in order to listen and respond emphatically, the ADDer may feel extremely ill at ease. How much easier to go to a chat room to enter into an eroticized communication where sexuality can be used as a surrogate for real social interactions.

Shame

Many ADD children grew up in families in which put-downs, disapproval, personal attacks and threats of abandonment were commonplace events. Punishment and frustration from teachers and taunts from peer groups added to a sense of worthlessness. As an adult, the ADD child judges himself mercilessly and often tries to be perfect in a desperate attempt to shield his shame. He feels deeply ashamed of being “different” due to ADD as well as of being a sexual compulsive – a “deviant”, if he becomes one. Chronic, relentless shame is devastating. Mired in feelings of worthlessness, defectiveness and despair, he is full of doubt about his very validity.

Shame and sex addiction are natural partners. The more intense the pain of self-hatred, the stronger the drive to find a sexual behavior that offers relief from internal pain and emptiness. For the sex addict, the answer to his inner problems lay outside himself in the “magic” of sexual desire, for or from, another. He confuses sexual desirability with self-acceptance. He is trying to fill the void that has been at least partially created by shame. He simply cannot bear feeling empty inside.

ADD temper problems or problems with rage may also stem from this chronic shame. A rageful person is desperate to keep others far enough away so they won’t see his sense of defectiveness. A shamed person can only think to defend himself from real or imagined attacks by cruelly attacking the other person. And rage works. It drives people away and so protects the person from revealing his shame. But this device of using rage to keep people away is very damaging to a person’s self-esteem. Rage breaks the connection between people and so increases the shamed person’s shame. A rage/shame spiral can result. Social isolation lends itself to engrossment in sexual fantasy as a way to ameliorate loneliness.

The person who is shame-based sees himself as deeply and permanently flawed. He “knows” he is not like other persons. He “knows” he is different. He “knows” he is so bad he is beyond repair. He “knows” he will never be able to join others in a world of productivity, balance, self-respect and pride.

Shame and Perverse Sexuality

An early-life sense of shame for being “different” and fear of abandonment can influence the sexual development of an ADD child. Parents who may have been unstable themselves and who had no knowledge of the special needs of an ADD child, may create a shame-based home environment. The messages that the ADD child who has chronic behavior problems, hyperactivity, aggressiveness and learning disabilities receives at home may include:

  1. You are not good;
  2. You are not good enough;
  3. You don’t belong;
  4. You are deficient and disappoint us.
  5. You are not worthy of love.

Shame and sexuality become closely connected. Children shamed early in life may become sexually compulsive or develop perverse fantasies as a way to feel better about themselves. Fetishism may occur. Sadomasochistic fantasies and enactments may become paramount. Exhibitionism may be developed and acted on.

Exhibitionism can easily be a chosen perversion for the person who is shame-based. The person who is shamed, instead of hiding, calls attention to himself. He may expose himself in public, in an automobile or by standing in a window. The ADD child may have suffered from a lack of recognition of his real and valid feelings, wants and needs by parents and teaches who expected him to be other than the way he was. The exhibitionist seeks to redress this lack of recognition. He also uses his perversion as a strategy for dealing with shame by displaying what he really wants to hide – himself.

Sadomasochistic fantasies and enactments are common among shame-based people who have difficulty imagining that relationships can include mutual respect, dignity and pride. People who have grown up with shame, like many ADD people, often believe that fulfilling, exciting relationships must be shame-based. Men pay hundreds of dollars to see dominatrixes who physically humiliate them and repeatedly tell them something is wrong with them. The submissive man, fearing abandonment, tries to please the “mistress” by becoming whoever she wants him to be, no matter how humiliating or de-humanizing her demands may be. The reasoning is such: “If anyone saw the real me, they would be revolted. I must please the mistress by being a person she would be proud of.” Pleasing the dominant parental figure is a way on undoing the pain of having a parent that couldn’t be pleased. The S&M enactment thus turns trauma into triumph because the masochistic man succeeds in pleasing his dominant partner.

Self-abuse is a common result of shame. Here, the person who is deeply shamed engages in masochistic behaviors that damage him. Seeking out the services of a dominatrix who may beat, whip and verbally humiliate him is one such way of self-abuse.

The other side of the S&M coin is the desire to humiliate and administer pain to others. Shame is a threat to a person’s basic sense of being. The shamed person feels small weak, vulnerable and exposed. He may find this self-hatred to be unendurable and in order to survive psychologically, he transfers his hatred on to others, treating them with disdain and contempt.

How to Tell a Girl You Love Her – 5 Romantic Ideas

Have you ever tried to tell a girl you loved her and just could not get the words to come out right? We’ve all been there, haven’t we? There is an old adage that says, “Actions speak louder than words,” so, with that in mind, here are 5 ways to tell a girl you love her that do not involve words:

1. Make her a special meal. You do not have to be a great chef, just think about what she likes and then go out of the way to learn how to prepare her favorite meal from scratch. In other words, ordering take-out or popping something into the microwave is not what I am suggesting. Make her special meal with your own hands from scratch. Think about the look on her face when she comes over and you escort her into the dining room, onto the patio, or into your yard where a candlelit dinner is waiting — her favorite meal prepared lovingly by you.

2. Take her on a surprise trip. This does not have to be extravagant or expensive. Just plan a special outing and when she arrives for a simple date or visit, tell her you are going someplace special. It can be a walk in the park followed by ice cream, or wine tasting in Napa Valley. The point is, you are doing something thoughtful and just for the two of you. Remember, if the date requires special shoes or clothes, pack some options for her. You do not want to take her horseback riding in high heels.

3. Really listen to her. This is a simple suggestion, and also one of the hardest to pull off. Try spending an entire evening with her and listening deeply to what she is really saying. Focus completely on her concerns, her issues, her dreams, and really try and understand the world from her point of view. Listening is a skill that you can develop, and if you love a girl, really listening to her can deepen your relationship. The benefits to your relationship from really listening are immeasurable.

4. Do something for her that she needs done. What I suggest here is that you think about the things that she really needs to get done but has not been able to do. For instance, maybe she is always saying, “I need to clean my car”, or, “I wish I had a place to store this yarn.” Then, secretly detail her car or build her a yarn storage cabinet. She will know that you listen to her, care about her, and that she is important enough for you to take action – you might even get a sweater out of this one, and that has special meaning all its own to women who knit.

5. Make a commitment in a tangible way. This can take many forms but the key here is that there is probably something that would show her that you really are committed to her for the long run. For some this may mean a proposal, but for others it may mean doing a budget together or getting a pet that belongs to you both. Whatever it is, making a commitment is one way to show a girl you really love her.

In the end, telling a girl you love her is really about taking some kind of action that shows love, concern, caring and commitment. Be creative in showing your love through actions and you will be the most eloquent person on the planet.

Give Him the Hots – Love Tips For Girls

Are you just an observer in bed? Do you actively participate in bedroom antics or are you just a receiver? Go through these handy Love tips for girls. It is guaranteed to make your man respond in bed.

o Focus-everybody knows you are into multi-tasking. But, your bed does not have to be an area where you multitask. Avoid thinking about the test tomorrow or grocery shopping when your partner is making love to you. Instead, focus on the act and you’ll feel the pleasure immediately.

o Concentrate on giving, rather than receiving – Reverse the roles and take up the lovemaking yourself. Watch your man fire up when you caress his thighs or his neck. You could even go for a double act by caressing with both hands and kissing him at the same time. Try it out- you will be adequately rewarded.

o Don’t be self-conscious about your looks. The sexiest women on earth are not always the prettiest. Your sex appeal lies in your lovemaking techniques and movements. So, don’t worry about that love handle or the pizza you had this morning. It is not going to show up on your vagina. Remember, the trick is to feel desirable and sexy. When you do that, you automatically give and receive more love.

o Having said that, there is no harm in spicing things up a bit with some sexy lingerie. You could even try going to bed with just makeup and shoes. Remember, nothing works better than an element of surprise.

o There is nothing sexier than a girl who is ready for action Follow the love tips for girls that we have provided above and play a more active role in bed!

Pekkie Aon was a former socialite who used to coach female social escorts in Thailand. Now, she has turned the tables and is teaching men the secrets of female seduction. To date, she has more than 500 male clients in Thailand alone.

Sex Travel – A Tourism Phenomenon

I am an independent hospitality/tourism travel writer and was recently asked to review the Caribbean “Sex Travel” phenomenon for a germane website, this is a synopsis of my research.

I started my research by going to the web where I used various key words, (Adult Vacation, Sex Vacation, Adult, Single Adult Vacations, Sex Tourism, Erotic Adult Vacation) and found a phenomenal number of providers with most surrounding the Caribbean Sea. Their websites had numerous photos of stunning girls, some photos of their accommodations, FAQ’s, prices and contact page for questions or a reservation. All required a deposit.

Most packagers follow a basic formula. Guests are met at their arrival and driven to their accommodations. Clients are introduced to the available girls either from a photo album or at a cocktail party at the villa. A second companion is an option for approximately $500.00 extra. Prices are high ranging from $5,000.00 to $7,000.00 for 5 days and 4 nights exclusive of airfare, extra days cost $1000.00+. The deposit is normally 25% with the entire cost required in advance.

Another trip format practiced primarily in Costa Rica is “all-inclusive” resort with one of their girls chosen from their website photos. The agency I used Costa Rica Escorts I found a total rip-off. The girls they advertised were not available and due to the distance from the airport I was required to stay at the first night was an airport hotel with no food except a limited breakfast. In spite of promises to return my deposit, when I tried to cancel my trip they made it so difficult with tacked on penalties with a hint of intimidation I was “forced” to go on their trip. When I asked to trade the girls they kept me waiting for 2 days with a sub-par girl I was charged $120 for her transportation and the same to transport the first girl back. Stay away from Costa Rica particularly Costa Rica Escorts.

As an aside please make sure you choose a country with a stable government, friendly to your country of origin, has convenient direct air transport with no second plane needed in country. Venezuela and Thailand are 2 to stay away from.

On another research trip, this one to the Dominican Republic I did find an operator that eliminated all the negatives experienced beforehand which caters to both men and women guests.

They provided a hassle free experience with a choice of 35 escorts that actually were the same ones on their website. Equally important was their price which was less than one-half than any others I researched. They offered 2 options; an all-inclusive beachfront villa or a beautiful beachfront condo apartment that offered a great amount of flexibility and independence although meals were not included with the apartment. I could eat in any one of dozens of restaurants with a variety of offerings meet people from different countries and the very friendly Dominican people. Restaurant meals and liquor is extremely reasonable dinner for 2 is less than $30 without drinks with gratuity, breakfast and lunch are less than half that. Girls were changed every day at no charge. The prices were very competitive and a very modest deposit was required.

The villa was very comfortable with a first night party where I met 10 girls and had an opportunity to chat with each one until I made my choice. The beachfront condo apartment was a beautifully furnished 1 bedroom with living room, kitchen, A/C, cable, internet, terrace, large pool, safe, tiled bath, daily maid service, 24 Hour Security and full time Concierge. I was surprised to receive a local cell phone immediately on my arrival to call my Concierge should I need some advice or help 24 hours a day (nice touch). The apartment was very near a super market where I stocked my kitchen. Shops, restaurants, bars, medical clinic, pharmacies, salons were an easy walk Puerto Plata International Airport (POP) is just twenty minutes away. Meals were not included with the apartment but I enjoyed the flexibility of eating in different restaurants every day. Most restaurants deliver free of charge giving you a chance to eat in complete privacy. All your favorite drinks can also be stocked. The island is magnificent with great weather and a huge number of activities.